Dilemma of Daughters to take care of their old parents after Marriage
In Indian families, daughters are considered to be symbols of wealth and prosperity. The daughters are usually extremely attached to their parents and are very concerned about their well-being. Financial responsibilities are thrust upon the sons and they too make sure that the people who brought them into this world are well taken care of, particularly in their old age. But the families where there is only one child, a daughter, the scenario is different. In the sense that this child is all her parents have and once she is an adult, she has to take on the great responsibility of becoming the bread earner for her family. She is the one who has to take on the role of a daughter as well as a son for her parents. In the case of multiple daughters in a family, the daughters have to bear the same responsibilities as in the case of a single daughter.
But what happens when the daughter has to leave her home and move to a different city or even a different country for her higher education or a job? What happens once she gets married and moves to her husband’s home and that home might be in a different town? This is a huge dilemma that daughters face, particularly when they are their parents’ only child, their only source of support. Parents love and nurture their child, irrespective of their gender, and provide with proper education so that they are able to cope with the world as adults and make a living for themselves. When the child in question is a daughter and an only child, her predicament is multifold because she needs to figure out the best possible way to look after her parents, particularly after she gets married and moves away from them.
Monetary support can be afforded from anywhere in the world, but the physical and moral support is what is also very important. When a woman in India starts her wedded life she becomes part of a new family, with a new set of parents, brothers, sisters and maybe more. But does that mean she is supposed to forget her own parents and not be responsible for
them any more? That is an impossible thing to ask for, especially of a woman who is their only child. These daughters become adept in managing both homes and maintaining a balance between them that is steady and harmonious. Dividing time between the two homes in such a way that neither feels neglected or left out. However, this task becomes difficult when she moves to another town altogether. Long distance care and support can be a tough proposition, but it is also true that it has become easier to manage in today’s modern world.
Enhanced telecommunication systems and the world of computers and the internet have allowed daughters to breathe a little easier. They can now stay in touch with their elderly parents every day, from any part of the world, with the help of a mobile phone, email or video chatting via the internet. Day to day matters and health issues of the parents can be followed up on a daily basis. A married daughter whose parents are getting on in age can also transfer money to them and call for medical help urgently with the help of modern technology. Does this end a daughter’s dilemma over the care and support of her old parents? Maybe not completely, but it does take a load off their responsibilities and allow them to worry less and continue to be the good and caring daughter.