Women in their Twenties ~ Single & Happy
Gone are those days when twenties, for young ladies, heralded the lookout for a “perfect” groom and all her family members - perhaps herself included - had primarily one thing in her life to look forward to; marriage. Today, women at twenty prefer to be single, and are all raring to make the most of their time and age!!
She is in full control of her life, and in no mood for marriage, which she believes, can wait. She is more concerned about her job prospects, money matters and the ladder of success. And why not?? She is sensible enough to realize that while marriage opens the door to domestic happiness and motherhood, the greatest boon of a woman’s life, it also ushers in various confinements and complications. After graduating from college she wants to spend time on her own, make her mark in the world, rather than pairing off right away and getting immersed in marital life. She chooses to give herself some time so as to secure her position financially as well as emotionally. While even in the nineties, 20-25 was considered to be an ideal age for girls to tie the knot, in today’s date, it is the ideal time for them to seek fulfilling careers, indulge their fancies, take delight in their freedom and pleasure in their responsibilities. They also want to sort out within their minds their concept of Mr. Right, how their prospective life-partner should be, rather than hurrying into a marriage. At this stage, they are answering to questions in their minds, such as, “Who would I enjoy being with?” or “What kind of person am I", and "What kind of person would suit me best as a partner through life?”
Previously the graduation degree was only seen as an added qualification in the “marriage market”, it simply enhanced your prospects. Today it marks a stepping stone into the professional world. The twenty-something girls of today also have the license to spend their earning on an active leisure life – clothes, gadgets, CDs, concert tickets, travel, restaurant meals and the likes.
For the young women of today, this is the period of high hopes and big dreams. This is not simply an “extended adolescence or young adulthood”, in fact, it has the best of both worlds. Free from parental control, and having the privileges of autonomy, at this phase of life, women are exploring the possibilities available to them in love and work, and gradually moving towards more enduring decisions. While even till 1970’s, being a single woman in twenties was not a viable social status, today, she pursues her passion, be it in terms of education, work or something else, even after graduation.
Also, in the course of the last few years, there has been a profound change in how young women view the implication and value of becoming an adult and entering the adult roles of spouse and parent. They no longer seek the “security” and “stability” of having a marriage, home and children. It is not that young women of today do not want these, but they want to be fully ready to take on such roles, and not simply rest their lives against the institution of marriage. This is as much a time of new-found independence as it is of anxieties and uncertainties. Women are trying to carve a niche for themselves in terms of their professional entity as well as individualistic integrity. Their lives go through little unsettled phases at this stage, and often they are at a loss to figure out where their explorations will lead to. During this interval, they have an exceptional opportunity to try out different ways of living and different options for love and work. Thus, they feel more at ease coping with the instabilities and fears by themselves rather than entering into conjugal ties for which they might not be prepared, emotionally or otherwise. By being self-focused in their twenties, they lay the foundation of a more stable life ahead.
Not all women have an equal portion of freedom; in fact, some still lead a life of deprivation without having any opportunities to transform their state of being. However, at a large scale, the women in their twenties today have a wide range of possibilities, when hopes flourish, and they have unparalleled ways to live life on their own terms.