Friends? Or Rivals in Love?
‘A’ loves ‘B’. ‘B’ loves ‘A’. ‘C’ loves ‘A’ too! Or, probably a slight rearrangement of such a situation. Isn’t this quite a common scenario in our twenties? Late high-school or college life, often young people find themselves in the middle of a love triangle that not only complicates their lives but also the friendships that are at stake.
Love triangles, almost inevitably, create rivals out of friends that provoke envy, hatred, anger and such other negative emotions. Two friends falling in love with the same person, and that person loving either of them is quite a common situation. Love triangles are usually selfish, with two people vying for the attention of or trying to win the affections of one person. In case of a split-person triangle, however, a lover splits his/her attention between two love objects. Whatever be the case, everyone involved in it tries to satisfy his/her own needs with no consideration to others’ feelings. It often results in not only strained romantic liaisons but also mars the once healthy friendships that existed amongst the individuals. Also, one or more of the persons involved usually ends up with a bitter feeling of betrayal at some point or the other.
Inherently unstable and often ending in unrequited love, many young people of the contemporary era who are either in high-school or college, suffer from such distressing turmoil in their lives, when their newly-developed feelings of “love” often come in the way of their long-founded friendships, and the latter is sacrificed at the altar of the former. What’s worse, the lovers might also not end up being together, thus both the relationships are lost.
Perhaps it is the frequent occurrence of love triangles in day-to-day life that is responsible for it being a recurrent theme in the field of entertainment, be it in novels, fiction, opera, manga, popular music etc. It can be quite excruciating for all three people involved, ensnaring them in such a situation that neither can they get away from it nor can they confront it with ease. It only causes despair, resentment and angst.
In such a tumultuous situation, it must be kept in mind that friendships are as important as romantic relationships. Friends should not be given up so easily, for the sake of a love that in fact, might not be love at all; rather it might turn out to be an infatuation or “crush”. The channels of communication must be kept open, rather than harbouring ill-thoughts about each other and sulking secretly. One has to rise above one’s subjective feelings and analyse the complications objectively, with due sensitivity towards the other persons’ feelings. The emotional repercussions can be brutally painful, and must be dealt with maturity. Counselling and professional help may also be sought if things get out of control.
It cannot be escaped from. It must be faced. Though it is quite improbable to save both the relationships, but things can be handled in a better way if one wants to. Making a choice amidst the dynamics of both the relationships is inevitable but one must try his/her best to save the friendship with all involved.