Because Each Friend is Important in his or her Own Way
“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”
What’s a friend anyway? They are perhaps the guardian angels that hold our hands through the smooth and rough patches of our lives. They know us inside out, at our best as well as at our worst. Of course, friends themselves differ largely in their temperament, outlook and personalities, and of course, the way we look and treat each of them also varies. Each one of them means something else to us, & how we bond with each is unique. There are some we can only discuss movies and music with, some that we can get absolutely crazy with, some that are the best counsellors in our times of distress, while some that never think twice before helping us with our homework.
If we are fortunate enough, we find a person who sees the world in the exact same way as we do. And if we are very lucky, we find a bunch of people who might not see the world how we do, but the different visions compliment and complement each other. The differences, when respected and valued, can lead to lifelong friendships being formed between individuals who may not have any common grounds or similarities. One can never be certain or conclusive about which two people will come to share a beautiful rapport. Together, as two souls survive the odds of life, see each other through thick and thin, they come to be inseparable.
There are friends who understand and/or encourage a particular attribute in us, and there are others that respond better to other traits in us. Some friends whom we text, some whom we call up for hours, some we love to hang out with, every weekend. They have all got a special place in our hearts by their own rights. No one encroaches on the space occupied by the others, for our hearts know that we need all of them in an different way. No two persons are similar, just as no two equations between individuals are the same. They have to be defined and dealt with, in their own ways, and they are sure to stick around no matter what the going is.
The only way we can hold on to this bunch of ‘idiots’ who mean the world to us is to accept them as they are, and recognising their role and purpose in our lives. The one you go to the gym with is perhaps not the same as the one you take with you when you go for shopping. Again, when we need to open up to someone with our darkest secrets, giving vent to our innermost emotions, we might look up to a third one as our confidante. It is the connectedness, the comfort level, the wavelength that differs, but their unconditional support is something we cannot do without! All of them will give us their different opinions and viewpoints, and that is another advantage of having and keeping friends who belong to different points of the spectrum. The way they express their love, concern, loyalty and care might be drastically different, but at the end of the day, one can be sure that the ‘friendship’ prevails and the sense of belongingness and having an anchor will never let us down.
To have such friends adding colours to our life, and having an ‘exclusive’ sort of companion or mate in each of them is one of the greatest happiness of life. They not only help us grow in myriad ways, but also fill the blanks in our life with so many hues. “It’s like picking up a book and knowing exactly where you left off.”