Marriage takes away your freedom. Is it all worth it?
To find if anything is overrated or not, one must first analyse what that thing gives and what it takes away in return. Marriage has always been a revered institution in the society and needless to say, an important milestone in every individual’s life. However, with changing times, the concept, implication and response towards marriage has undergone a sea change and today it has reached a stage where the society is actually questioning its feasibility and effectuality.
What does the system of marriage, a much touted act of life, bring to us that one otherwise cannot have in life? The perspectives of course will vary. Some will choose to take a stand that absolutely is in support of marriage, while another group might choose to put it down as a highly hyped institution that takes away much more than it gives. Some others might take a middle stand, and not on either side of the spectrum. Also, if we delve deeper into the issue, an unbiased vision will tell one that women in the current age perhaps have more reasons to get disillusioned with marriage than men. Many women these days will argue that more than marriage offers to a woman, it takes away. Though marriage demands tremendous adjustments and adaptations on the part of both spouses, still women are the ones who are at a riskier position. She not only leaves her world behind and comes to a new home, with a bunch of new relationships, people and emotions to tackle, but also has to abandon much of her ambitions, priorities, lifestyle and what not!
For a guy, on the other hand, the challenge lies in securing a strong financial support for the family, striking a healthy balance between his parents and his partner, making the girl feel comfortable into the new surroundings etc. It also means, perhaps to curtail down his own freedom to a certain extent, just as a woman often has to give up on many things once she has settled down with someone under marital vows. Earlier perhaps things were easier since women hardly felt the urge to work and earn a living. Her sphere of thought was centred within the confines of her home and in-laws. For a man, in his turn, there weren't too many complications for the same reason.
Needless to say, it is an entirely different scenario altogether at present. Marriage is no longer simply the compulsory social ritual that meant two families coming together and sealing the fate of two individuals for life, bound by a divinely sacred bond. Now it is looked up to with much more scrutiny, hair-splitting judgements, considerations and what not! However, despite the stakes and potholes involved, it remains an undeniable fact that marriage endows on us that one person in our life who is our best companion at every step of life. There must be some supernatural strength in the promises made, the vows exchanged, the knot that is tied, that binds two souls together for a lifetime. Yes, doubtlessly both have to budge from their “ideal” life-conditions on several occasions, but it ultimately pays off when one realizes what an invaluable enrichment of life it is to have someone like your alter ego, your everlasting friend who shares every bit of your life and makes you all the more beautiful and complete.
And then when the magical moment arrives when you get to hold your baby in your arms for the first time, freedom, independence - all these thoughts vanish into thin air. The baby becomes your world and makes the bond with your spouse stronger and make marriage very much worth it !