Keeping the Romance Alive!
Life has a way of getting us accustomed to certain special things after a while, so much so that we start taking those things for granted. Be it family, work, finances, whatever, when things go at a pretty plain level with not much ups and downs, we tend to recede to our comfort zone, and forget that even the smallest reasons of happiness need to be rekindled so that they do not fade away in oblivion.
Marriage is one such institution in which after years, things proceed at an usual pace and pattern, leaving the spouses with a feeling that they have left the charm and freshness somewhere behind. And once this magic seems to have disappeared, the spice is sure to dwindle. The couple must always put conscious efforts to revive the romance in their marriage, even years after the marriage, so that it appears to have come to a stagnant point. After all, who likes staleness? Marriage does not, of course, mean an end to “love”, and there is no age to romance. Amidst the countless let-downs of the contemporary era, that include severe work pressure, changed lifestyles, financial constraints, responsibilities of kids, family conflicts, health issues etc., a couple is prone to lose the attraction and affinity that they had once felt for each other, & the one that drew them together.
In order to bring back the lost essence, both should make deliberate attempts to “reconnect”, after being pulled apart by all the pressures of modern life. Simple things such as going out once in a week for a movie, dinner, outing or just a walk can do the trick. The point is to spare some time from the hectic schedules of both the individuals involved in order to spend time with each other. So much can change over a cup of coffee, a late-night tete-a-tete, a long drive, etc. Unlike popular notion, these are not things meant only for the young. No matter how silly and juvenile it sounds, but little gestures such as getting flowers for one’s wife, sharing an ice-cream, going through the family album together can rejuvenate the same passion and warmth that seemingly had fizzled out.
Also, it is very crucial to communicate with one’s partner. Half the vitality of marriage withers away because of lack of communication. So many people, thoughts, anxieties occupy our minds that we forget to talk, share and listen to each other. Yes, the other components of life are undoubtedly worth our attention but engulfed by them, the love and romance in marriage is often devoured, and there is no worse tragedy than this. Let your partner know how you feel, what you think, what you desire, but in a non-threatening, non-judgemental way. Baring your soul out to each other and giving vent to numerous untold sentiments can be instrumental in restoring the spark. Attraction needs to be kept alive. It is bound to suffer wear and tear with the course of time.
To work at it, the couple needs to take an active role in their own lives as well as that of their spouses. A casual stroll, a game of scrabble, writing love notes, doing cute things for each other can go a long way to keep the two madly in love for ages.
Memories do not necessarily have to be of your dating days. No matter how “old” your marriage is, it does not take much to make each other feel loved, valued and cherished all over again, for it makes YOU feel even better! Bring back the fun to kill the monotony, do creatively surprising things that gives pleasure to both, the focus of marital ties is nothing else but the two people involved, and the fire between them must never stop sizzling!