It's a Father-Daughter Equation !
Daddy’s little princesses all grow up under the loving, caring shelter of their fathers. As they say, a father is a daughter’s first love, a hero for her. No matter what she does, where she goes, whom she is with, the indelible impact of her father stays for a lifetime and beyond. From an infant to a toddler, she grows up to be a teen and then a tween, the love only keeps growing and evolving and how beautifully!
Psychologists are of the view that being the first man in a girl’s life, a father becomes a role-model to her, who frames her opinion of the world, her values, ideals, her approach to life’s various aspects. We live in a time when the role of a father is no longer simply that of financial support. With both parents going out to work, fathers have an equal role in care-giving. He too handles her from a very tender age, looking after her needs meticulously and sharing her responsibilities. It is perhaps this quality time that lays the foundation of a profound bond that influences the later stages of her life. Calming her nerves, putting her to sleep, getting on the floor with her as she starts to crawl, all of it culminates into the priceless father-daughter equation.
The teens are a little tricky for both of them, as it brings along many physiological and psychological changes within the girl, and the “hormones” often get the better of the father-daughter intimacy. Both of them often shy away from each other, which might create a distance. However, conscious efforts should be made to keep the communication channels open so that the candour and friendship is never lost due to other entities coming in between. It is mutual trust that can keep the situation hale and hearty, rather than bewildering and uneasy. As she matures, the relationship is more about bonhomie than that of authority and compliance. Both of them feel free to express their thoughts and emotions freely.
A dad’s influence on a daughter’s life is a significant ingredient in the development of her self-esteem and her perspectives of the outer world. His verbal encouragement, gestures of motivation, his omnipresence in her life, his alertness and sensitivity towards her feelings, the power of listening to her, taking an active interest in her hobbies etc. play a pivotal role in forming her self-concept. Nothing acts better than a dad’s involvement and inspiration in a girl’s life.
The kind of relationship that a daughter shares with her father also influences her choice of life-partner. Every man she comes across, she seeks to see a reflection in him of her father, the opinion she has in general about men-folk, the rapport that she will share with them is in large way, governed by the relationship she has shared with her father. The respect and affection with which he treats his daughter, the love that exists between the father and the mother as well as the general perception of women in the father’s mind go a long way in shaping similar concepts in the girl’s psyche.
Thus, the onus should be on both, probably little more on fathers, to establish a warm, frank and respectful relationship between daddies and their little princesses. He is the architect of the many meaningful dimensions of her life and the process of two-way learning and sharing should be started as early and as positively as possible.