Is there such a thing as 'Healthy Flirting'?
Friendship being a subjective concept holds different meanings and implications for different individuals. Over the years, its “definition” has undergone various modifications and transitions. Flirting, on the other hand, has come to acquire a new-found essence in the outlook of the current generation as well, and is no longer viewed in the same light as it had been till a decade ago, or a little while more.
The dictionary defines “flirting” as “behaving amorously without any emotional commitment”. Healthy flirting, however, poses no threat to the kind of relationship that exists between any two individuals. Years ago, flirting in friendship was considered to be an unacceptable thing since the former was mostly looked upon as an “immoral” act. Times have changed, and so have perceptions and perspectives. Flirting amongst friends is no longer considered to be a forbidden or unpleasant thing. In fact, it can be a positive, cordial way of getting to know another person and also interacting with him/her freely. It leads to a warm, constructive bond between them that is not only fun but also deep, with a higher level of mutual understanding. However, the intention and the body language behind the flirting should be right so that the spirit of bonhomie is never let down by discomfort or uneasiness in either of the people involved. Both of them need to be receptive, sensible and trusting towards each other.
Friendship amongst boys and girls have shed many of the inhibitions that earlier kept their open, candid communication in check. Flirting in permissible limits and within the decorum has broadened the scope of friendships. However, it can applied and appreciated in a “healthy” way only if the sincerity isn’t tarnished with obscenity, the good talks aren’t marred by wrong signals and direct eye-contact isn’t ruined by leering. The entire purpose is to keep the charm and the fun alive with spontaneity with genuine compliments etc. without appearing to be “desperate” or “cheap”. The lines of decency must never be crossed or it can spell doom for a beautiful relationship. It is meant to be innocent and devoid of any lecherous undertones, and if kept that way, it can actually lend an added spark and magic to a boy-girl friendship. We all have our own ideas of where to draw the line of what is acceptable and to what extent. The tuning and frequency between friends should be such that the light-hearted banter and the subtlety of flirting are never misinterpreted. Both should be clear about the underlying and unsaid boundaries.
Flirting can induce a lot of compatibility and camaraderie amongst friends, but honesty should never be compromised with. Let flirting allow the friendship to break away from dull routines and give your bond a new lease of effervescence, without remotely hurting each other or showing any kind of insensitivity or disrespect. Only such controlled and “healthy” flirting can actually serve to enhance the sharing, caring and bonding amongst friends. Let the equation be so strong that both of you know what is to be taken seriously and what not!