Love-messages replacing love-letters?
The love letter is almost as old as written civilization itself, and continued to flourish throughout the earlier centuries as the most romantic mode of expressing amorous feelings. However, with the advent of modern technology and latest gadgets, is the charm and appeal of hand-written love letters on the wane? Have mails, texts, Facebook chats and other such newbies established such reign that letters are close to being extinct? Well, we hope not.
As they say, ‘old is gold.’ The tradition of love-letters, dated back to thousands of years ago, is still seen as the most romantic gesture, bearing the imprint of the deepest chords of a lover’s heart for his beloved. At least, that’s what women feel. A recent research has shown that women find love-letters to be the most special thing that a guy can do for her, and rated it higher than even receiving flowers, being cooked for, or getting a poem/song dedicated to them. However, only 6% of women have been found to still write love-letters, and the number is even lower for men. A mere 4% of them still put pen to paper to express their heartfelt feelings for the cherished one.
Classically romantic, nothing actually can match up to the aura and magic of a love-letter that bears the carefully and beautifully written words of love, perhaps scented with some perfume and sealed with a kiss. Probably emails, text messages, chats and other technologically “advanced” means of communication convey nothing less than what an age-old letter would, but it remains undeniable that the latter is a tangible source, something one can touch and feel, and draw to one’s bosom as a mark of a loved one. It is always sad to let good old things go, especially the ones that have come to acquire a certain bit of importance with the course of time. Expression of feelings in its elaborate, long form, shows attention and thoughtfulness. Also, it has got a personal touch. It doesn’t come with a “mark as spam” button or “delete” option, rather the sense of getting to know someone better is strengthened as we see that the writer of the letter has chosen his “font” independent of the ones that are available, the artificial smileys have been replaced by genuine, heartfelt modes of emotional expression, the way they cross their ‘t’s and dot their ‘i’s is exclusively theirs!
The sensory experience that is evoked by holding a love-letter in one’s hand with the perfume etc. emphasizing in the receiver’s mind the physical connection and emotional intimacy with the lover is incomparable. Tweets and mobile messages fall far short of it, and if we come to think of it, is much more superficial.
Yes, its mushy, perhaps at times it can get cheesy too. In short, maybe it is simply “too sweet” for the generation that believes in matter-of-fact, no-nonsense kind of communication. The earnestness and intensity that goes in penning down your inmost feelings is lost in the jet-age concepts of “instant” messaging and chats. Hardly would there be anyone these days who would bother to write a love-letter, or on receiving one, slip it in between the pages of a book to save it from getting wrinkled. They would rather have digitally typed and sent words in their inboxes. The world has definitely changed. For the better or worse, well, let one decide for oneself.