Friends that become Family!
“Sometimes when we connect with others, something special happens, and somewhere along the way, a new family is created.”
Family and relatives are God’s gift to us, we are born to them. However, friends are our gifts to ourselves. When making friends, we consciously decide and choose as to who are the ones that will stay in our life and add a whole new dimension to it. What a beautiful thing is it! And oftentimes, without even us realizing it, some friends become family, and prove the time-tested saying that relations of the heart are stronger than those of the blood.
When a person moves into the teen years and beyond, his/her friends from the peer group are the ones that share the most comfort level with, and to whom their views are most relevant. During younger days, an individual is more or less entirely dependent on family for emotional sustenance, but as one grows up, friends occupy a large share of one’s social circle who not only lend emotional support but facilitates healthy intellectual exchange and a communion of ideas and bonhomie that moulds and shapes much of one’s adulthood. Later, they end up forming life-long relationships with a chosen bunch of friends, who become their companions through the best and worst of life. How marvellous it is to have a gang of crazy but loyal, fun yet understanding, quirky yet dependable friends who will stand by you and stick around, come what may. They know you at your best and have seen you at your worst, and yet, choose to be with you through thick and thin.
It becomes a growing need for any individual to be accepted and loved amongst people of the same age group, in order to feel secure and self-assured. Family is a constant thing in one’s life, as we know that no matter what, they will love us. But when it comes to friends, nothing can be taken for granted as we have to put in sincere efforts to keep it ticking, and that is what draws us closer to them; the value of the relationship increases manifold, as we acquire them. They often overpower the role of blood relations in our life as we share our inmost emotions and experiences with them, baring our souls as honestly as we can; something that perhaps we won’t dare to, with family, for fear of criticism or rejection. Friends are seldom judgemental, they are familiar with our most disgusting habits and manners, know our flaws, they even get irritated with our characteristic “defects”, but never make us feel worthless. As we spend more and more time with them, we actively get to know ourselves better, as we see them through their eyes. We do not hesitate to expose our vulnerabilities and insecurities as we know they will find a safe home in someone’s bosom.
Be it the long-drawn intimate conversations, or the sleepovers, the birthday parties or celebrating the little joys of life, such friends become synonymous with every joy and sorrow of our life. Somewhere amidst all the funny nicknames, insane leg-pulling, executing the weirdest of plans, they become an inseparable part of our entity. And while you’re reading this, if there are a few faces hovering before your eyes, you know you’ve been fortunate to be blessed with such friends, who perhaps mean as much as family, if not more!