Does Love Happen Only Once?
They say, “Love happens only once. Rest is life.” Agree or disagree? Well, that’s a subjective take of course. Love is such a personal sentiment that everyone will have their own stand and their unique ways of looking at it. However, over ages, it has kind of become an idyllic concept that our first love is our last. The following times that we claim to “fall in love” are nothing but projections of mere self-deception and a subconscious compromise on our part, since we have no power over destiny. Life goes on.
There are many in this generation that might choose to hold on to the Utopian, make-believe concept of “finding that one true love of our life”, “made for each other” theory etc. They have their own reasons for clinging on to that faith, as does that group of youngsters who are more inclined to believe that love happens as many times as you want. There is no such thing as “one and only love”, while there are many who opine that there is no such thing as love at all! It is simply an overrated, exaggerated, ornamental term that has been used since centuries to denote simply a strong “infatuation” towards a person. Again, the perspectives will differ depending on whom it is being addressed to. While sitting amongst a group of friends, a guy/girl may insist that love can happen many times, but when wooing a prospective girlfriend/boyfriend, they might claim that they’ve found that one “special someone” that they have and will ever love.
Largely, the current crop of youth feels that getting hooked-up with someone, dating, hanging around, and eventually breaking up with that person isn’t a big deal. Love is being looked upon more in terms of the feasibility and pragmatism quotients rather than on a purely emotional note, and in such times, if things don’t work out, it is best to part ways, saving both the persons involved the misery and torture of carrying forward a burdensome relationship. They feel that the “love happens only once” adage is more of a result of social conditioning than psychological foundation. Human beings are actually capable of falling in love with any number of potential mates. While there still exists a group who profess that the “true” love knocks at your heart only once, one that accompanies absolute selflessness, unconditional affection, insane romance, one that never thinks or calculates, rather is driven purely by one’s most genuine, innocent, guileless sentiments. The loves that might follow, if any at all, can never match the gush of feelings and the rush of goodness that defined the first and the only ‘love’.
One may choose to live the moment; ‘carpe diem’ and not spare much of a thought for tomorrow. One never knows which love will blossom into a lifetime bond and which will meet with an and before culmination into something everlasting. Given such circumstances, it is best to savour the essence of the moment, and just bask in the buoyancy, even if it is just for the here and now. Falling for the “right” or “wrong” person, after all, is a matter of chance, and not on our hands. So why deny ourselves the happiness or force ourselves to stick on to a relationship, if we know that we aren’t compatible? The magic after all just happens, it cannot be created. There is no standard formula or dictum to matters of the heart. Call it trial-and-error, or attraction, or “clicking” with a person, etc. we all love to be in a state of love. And as long as it lasts, we should live it to the fullest! For the rest, they must be superbly lucky souls who’ve found their soul mates in just one go!