Fall in love but do not fall in the eyes of your parents

Fall in love but do not fall in the eyes of your parents

Every relationship has its own value and significance in our lives, and none of them can be compromised with, for the sake of another. The secret to a good life is to strike a balance amongst the various roles we have to play and to preserve the ones who are dearest to us, by giving them the due share of love, care and affection. Throughout the different stages of life, beginning from infancy, we are blessed with people that become an integral part of our existence. As we are born into this world, the very first ones that beautify our being are our parents, followed closely by our siblings. As we grow up, we make friends, who come to occupy a major part of our feelings and emotions; further, at the right age and time, we come across that one special person who has been made for us, and with whom we share the rest of our life.
However, the onus lies on each of us to make sure that when that Mr/Miss Perfect walks into our life, and we usher them into our hearts through rose-strewn paths, we do not, in the process, ignore our parents who have brought us into the world. It is an undeniable fact that our parents are the ones that love us most unconditionally and selflessly. Falling in love is a beautiful thing indeed, but wouldn’t it be stripped off its purity and honour if it is at the cost of neglecting the two people who have acquainted and familiarised us with the very institution of love? On the contrary, the bond that we share with our partner is all the more enriched if we gain parental approval and support in the relationship. After all, sacrificing two of our favourite people for one is simply not worth it, however much ‘blind’ may love turn us into. If our feelings for the one person is mature and responsible enough, we’ll know how to do justice to all the relationships around; love after all, should be a positive force that enables us to expand our life and bring forth the best in us. The kind of love that makes us see only one person and makes us ignorant or indifferent to the rest of the world is not constructive and fulfilling enough.
In recent times, it a major cause of distress amongst parents of teenagers, who, once in love, or at least under the impression that they are in love, make their parents feel unloved. Everything that parents feel, say or do comes across as “wrong”, “insensitive”, or “unfair”. If we spare a thought to how hurt they might feel on such occasions when we turn a cold shoulder to them that have raised us with unfathomable love and care for years, for the person whom we’ve known for a much lesser span of time! No love can be the be-all and end-all of one’s life and being so love-struck that it loosens your ties to your parents is a delusion that will ultimately bear no fruits of happiness. Rather, one must try to reach a higher realm of love by not losing sight of the people that are our creators and preservers, and take care of their sentiments and emotions as well.
Parents’ love can never be replaced; it is all-encompassing and everlasting. So keep your life well in equilibrium, let your parents respect your love for your partner and vice-versa, and never lose the part of you that has been a son/daughter for years, much before you turned into a doting beloved.

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