Friends help discover the Real You
Soul searching is a good exercise to penetrate your inner self and examine your motives, beliefs and actions. Experiences often force us to question what is happening and we begin a journey of self-discovery. Some go travelling; some choose spiritualism and philosophy to discover their own selves and some are blessed by God with angels who help us discovering ourselves.
Remember how in the movie 3 Idiots, Rancho helps Farhan discover that he will not be happy with engineering and must go for wildlife photography even though his parents were against it? This is an example of a true friend who helps us find ourselves. Also, this is why we cannot forget such friends. They know us very well and become our counselors in any painful situation such as a breakup or when we are berated by teachers or bosses. It is rare to meet true friends and having one good friend is a blessing. But a soul searching friend is someone who is not content with what we are and constantly prods us to think big. He/she knows what is waiting to be born within us because we usually open up to him/her. Our friends know our secret desires, crushes, ambitions and weaknesses.
Our friends’ motivation and belief in us help us surpass our own expectations. The world has a habit of making us conform to its standards. The world wants us to stay where we are. Friends do not make us arrogant by over-evaluating our potential but just help us to accurately find what our instincts might know when we do not want to ignore the chattering in the brain or the opinion of the world. Our true friend values us for who we are and not our wealth, clothes or parents.
One special characteristic of this friend is his/her capacity to never get offended by our indifference. He/she is not polite but is frank, can kick you for your cowardice and defend you in front of the whole world. He/she will work on you to polish you so that you reach your potential. He/she is not only a teacher because he/she will have fun with us while chatting/shopping too.
There is no fixed way we may meet them. At times, they come when we need them, when we ask God for His guidance some difficult situations; He comes in person in the form of a friend. We learn to overcome our under-confident, questioning, critical self with the mentoring we receive from this friend. Often, we flounder and need someone to pull us up from the quagmire of confusion or resistance of our family and resulting self-doubts. That is when a true friend steps up. And you don’t have to try and recognize them. They will themselves come up to you and bond with you and will be strong mentors and warriors to pull you through the difficulties.
“Friends”, as Aristotle, the Greek philosopher points out, “are our second selves.”