Have you watched the movie, Serendipity? It tells the story of Jonathan and Sara who meet while choosing the same pair of black gloves, each buying it for a partner. They hit it off and spend the evening skiing and chatting. Sara believes in signals from fate or fortuitous accidents and does not give her contact number to Jonathan when the paper blows away in a gust of wind. She writes her name and contact number on the front page of a book, ‘Love in the time of Cholera’ and sends it to a bookstore. She coaxes Jonathan to write his contact number on a five pound note and gives it to a shopkeeper while purchasing confectionary. They leave and go back to their respective lives. She believes that if the two are fated to be together, they will find the note and the book. The movie finally finds both yearning to meet each other and then Jonathan embarks on the search for the book across all book-stores of New York and brings Sara all the way to New York City from Britain. Of course, the story has a happy ending.
Don't we wish this happened in real life too?
Marriages are made in heaven and destiny plays a role in making us collide with our partner/spouse. This is the belief all dating sites, "kundli" experts and many romantics among us believe. Many girls dream of the tall, dark or fair, handsome, intense, funny, rich or well-to-do knight and guys sure imagine a pretty damsel in distress. The idea never grows old be it the Raj and Simran generation or The Fifty Shades of Grey readers. Yash Chopra based a whole movie - Dil Toh Pagal Hai (the heart is mad) - on this idea of lovers being two halves of one whole.
We cannot choose the city we are born in or live in. But we make choices when we go for studies. We may go outside our city or country. Or is it that fate sends us somewhere and makes us meet someone. Does that mean choices and destiny are intertwined? Or fate actually prods us towards something and then we bump into that special someone who we fall in love with. It is true that our choices are our own so our romantic relationships are also our own decisions. Marriage has to be a choice. But many say that meeting the special person is destiny and we are led by events in our lives to eventually marry him/her. Astrology says that it is written in our destiny who we shall meet in our lives especially those who will influence our heart. We will change after meeting them. Things will just happen in time, in place and in spirit. But often we have to seek them before they arrive.