Be financially independent!
Some women believe it is necessary to be financially independent, some don’t. Some feel that their primary duty is that of a home maker. For some it’s the matter of satisfying their personal needs. What society does not understand is that it is a matter of self respect and pride.
When you, a home-maker, stands next to a professional career woman how do they feel? Do you feel substandard, like you are lacking in some way?
Times are changing, women are now able to pursue higher education and careers. But as soon as they are bound by marriage everyone’s perception about them changes. It is the pure heart of a woman that is completely devoted to her family, yet she is not respected. Gone are the days when women were supposed to be just home makers. As of today the divorce rate in the country is rising steeply. There are many single-mothers who have to take care of a family. It has become imperative for girls to be qualified, it empowers them and they don’t feel dependant. An excellent example is of Yahoo CEO Marissa Mayer, who came back to work two weeks after giving birth. There are now a significant number of world leaders who are women and it shows that the times are changing. Another great example is of director Kathryn Bigelow who beat her former husband for the best director Academy award and is a frontrunner to win this year. The glass ceiling is slowly disappearing and this good for women equality.
Let us think about some uncertainties in life:
What if your husband expires? What if he loses his job or faces huge losses in his business? What if he gets seriously ill and is not able to work and needs you to pay for his medical expenses?
Are you sure you can live your whole life with whatever he leaves behind including your insurance claim? Even our lifestyle is becoming expensive day by day. What we would have thought are sufficient for life is generally not enough.
When a woman faces such hardships, she realizes that she could have done things differently. Her professional degree at this point will be of no use if she gave up a career opportunity to be a house wife.
I would like to share a personal experience. A girl in my neighborhood did her M.B.A from K.J.Somaya Mumbai, was placed in a reputed organization with a pay package of 10 lakhs per annum. However, she was not allowed to take up that position, instead she was married off. After 7 years she found out that he was having an extramarital affair and now she is divorced for almost 4 years, unemployed and a single mother of a beautiful daughter. She is completely dependent on the little something she gets from her ex-husband and her retired parents. Had she taken up that job, married a man who would support her in her personal as well as professional life, perhaps things might have been different. I am not saying she won’t be a divorcee then but at least she would have had a very good job to support her, her daughter. She would not have to go to her parents or ex-husband every time she wants to get her daughter or herself something.
This is just a real life example of what happens when a woman is not financially independent. Now is the time to realize that you need to be financially independent, you might not need those extra rupees at the moment so it is best to save because you never know what future has in store for you.
Guest post by Salomi Gupta: http://fabulicious-me.blogspot.in/
She says: My blog is more like a diary; my friends always loved whatever I wrote for them and forced me to start a blog. This blog is more of what I feel at various point of my life.