Standing at the crossroads
A middle-aged couple. With two kids, or one for that matter. Husband gets an opportunity of working in a different city (or a different country, as the case may be) with better scope and a higher raise in terms of his career. In most instances, he will jump at the offer and his family will oblige. Though certain factors may seem to pose hurdles in this sudden decision of shifting base, but eventually all those obstacles are somehow resolved and things are made all the conducive for the husband to pursue his ambition. And it goes without saying that his wife cooperates with him the most, providing the utmost support at every circumstance.
Let's now think of the same situation with a single twist. What if the better job opportunity and/or the higher pay is offered to the wife, and she is faced with a similar choice? Will she be able to take the decision? If no, why not? Of course, a moment's contemplation will answer that being a 'wife', and a 'mother' even more importantly, a woman is supposed to put her family first in her priority-list and career is a secondary consideration. Most women have subconsciously reconciled themselves to this unwritten "rule." If there are some that resent this fact and strive to stand up for her right, she is usually labelled as a gravely flawed woman who doesn't quite fulfill her duties as she is meant to do.
However, this discrepancy can be averted if the husband is understanding and sensible enough to gauge this simple fact that his wife too has equal right to make an autonomous move in her career. Gone are the days when a woman only had to cater to her role as a home-maker, looking after the household chores and bringing up the children. Today's 21st-century woman has to do justice to many responsibilities in various avatars! Given that she can also be equally ambitious, goal-driven and focused in terms of her career, she should also enjoy the independence to take a decision concerning the same, and it is perfectly justifiable for her to expect that her family, and above all, her husband will stand by her and reassure her that she will receive every form of support from him. If both of them are working professionals, the onus ought to be on both the spouses to strike a balance between their domestic duties and work-related necessities.
Just as a wife is naturally expected to abide by her husband's decision to move elsewhere, doing all the required adjustments simultaneously, a husband should also at times be flexible enough to do the same if need be. In case there is a conflict of interest or any other extraneous factor at stake, talk it out between yourselves, and let the situation work out in a way that serves the best interests of everyone and everything involved.