Are women themselves supporting patriarchy?
While the entire world is fighting the battle unitedly to combat crimes against women and make our planet a better and safer place for women, perhaps somewhere, somehow, they are often proving themselves to be their biggest enemies. No matter how ironical and ridiculous it sounds, it is a bitter truth that women are themselves the chiefest perpetrators of patriarchy, thus diminishing their own solidarity and integrity in the eyes of everyone else.
Recently, India has been severely outraged about the grotesque gangrape case that occured in Delhi, bringing into light the worst facet of mankind. Everyone has raised a huge outcry against the perverts that have committed this heinous deed. This and a spate of similar incidents have also sparked off many debates regarding the alarming rise in the frequency of such mishaps in recent times, and the reasons underlying such bestial acts. Several groups have expressed various perceptions and perspectives regrding this burning contemporary issue in the society. Amidst all the hue and cry, what is dishearteningly interesting to note is that a section of women are often found to blame themselves for such heart-rending incidents. They fallaciously yet strongly hold on to the belief that such instances are occurring due to the so-called "advancement" of women. They look at the emancipation of women as a curse upon the society, and that it invites their own doom. Statistics have revealed that all across the world, a majority of women hold themselves responsible rape and other forms of sexual abuse, believing that a woman wearing revealing clothes, attending parties, going to discotheques, pubs etc. bring such misfortune on themselves.
It is indeed a shame. The need of the hour demands that women raise their voices and stand up for their own rights, rather than playing the self-blame game. It is but common sense, coupled with our fundamental rights, that no matter how "indecently" dressed or skimpily clad, or drunk/intoxicated a woman is, no one has got the right to rape her or commit any misdemeanor against her. In today's age, if we still cling on to obsolete ideals, baseless notions and outdated concepts that only serve to thwart a woman's independence and curb her freedom to lead the life she deserves, it will only lead to regression and further injustice. Women who perpetrate the misconception that women "ask to be raped" or be mistreated in any form, for that matter, are in a way, insulting their womanhood and demeaning their self-respect. Gone are the days when women were compelled to sacrifice their individuality, autonomy and self-assertiveness at the altar of the male authority figures in their life. Today, they have risen to exalted positions in every field that on can possibly think of ~ name it, and women have ventured into that domain, successfully, thus putting the stereotype of being the "weaker sex" to rest.
Despite our claims of modernity and global liberalization, women are still fighting battles against themselves, for there exists in society a huge chunk of hypocritical women as well who opine that women should be confined withing the barriers of dos and don'ts. How they think, talk, act, behave, dress up etc. determines how men will treat her. We need to get rid of such outlook that pose severe hurdles in the holistic upliftment and betterment of women. How can women uphold their dignity and self-esteem, if they themselves make way for male dominion and chauvinism? It is our social responsibility to uproot such deluded ideas from their minds and light them up with the true essence of women's liberty. It is an era of awakening, and no soul must keep their eyes shut to a woman's worth. And perhaps there are many women out there who first need to open their eyes, and unfurl a wider vision.