Have an offbeat wedding
Modern day brides often roll their eyes at the accepted notion of traditional weddings and moan about having to sit through hours and hours of rituals – especially in India where they are required to wear heavy and uncomfortable jewellery and clothing and nod to what the priest is saying even though they do not understand a word of it.
A trend that has taken the West by storm could be an inspiration to Indian couples who are looking to get married. Off beat weddings, or non-traditional weddings are fun, kitschy and super exciting – there are many instances that you can look up for inspiration. People have themed weddings where the couple’s favourite film or cartoon character has place of honour etc.
However, Indian weddings will typically be difficult to render off-beat because of the families involved – as the saying goes, an Indian couple marries each other’s families, and not just each other. It is inevitable that families will object and will want the wedding to be traditional – just as they have experienced and as society demands it to be. However, since the trend is shifting more towards personal experiences than traditional big affairs – it is no longer uncommon to have a small ceremony with a joint reception by the groom and bride later – the couple could try and pull their own weight around when it comes to making arrangements, especially if they are the ones paying for their wedding ( another trend in recent times)!
With off-beat wedding rituals, think of having a smaller ceremony, with your closest friends and relatives because only they will understand the significance of your theme, having known you long enough. The most important part of the wedding is to be legally certified as man and wife – so have the signings done in the presence of the requisite authority and get that out of the way. After that, get set to have your own party – your style.
Choose the theme together – think of something that really appeals to the two of you, for example, a film that you both hold as a landmark in your relationship, a place where you two met, cuisine that both of you like or anything which signifies your love for each other and a common bond. For example, recently, an American couple chose to have a Calvin and Hobbes themed wedding, because they met and fell in love over a mutual fascination for the irascible pair.
Once you have chosen your theme, organise your wedding accordingly. If, for example, you have opted for a beach wedding, then make sure plenty of shells figure in your decor and design, and your menu should be sea food. Supposing your wedding has a Goa theme, you could even ask the guests to dress accordingly, sarongs over swimsuits if you are daring! The wedding can take place beneath a canopied tent of different colours, a large area can be cordoned off with rope or bamboo barricades, entwined with flowers to make it pretty. Mehendi on the beach, followed by the symbolic “pheras” while your guests sip fruity drinks and eat from a shack that serves typically Goan fare in the background!
Or, if your wedding is themed along the lines of a band, you can have the invites designed as tickets to their concert and the decor can be suitably – the hall can be decorated like a rock concert venue! The food too could be according to the theme – a rock theme or a Beatles theme would have finger food and hotdogs or a full English styled meal complete with crumpets! Go nuts – think of what defines you as a couple and stick with that as the theme – a village theme, an 80’s style wedding, a library/bookworm theme, a colour theme, a culinary theme, a destination, a song – anything can be your theme.
Of course, take the cost factor into account and do not over spend n a theme wedding – because it is easy to go overboard. Plan well in advance and make sure all the details are to your liking – and the guests will surely appreciate the effort you have made to make your wedding special and unique. After all, good food, great guests and a beautiful ceremony is what they are looking for – and they will get much more than they bargained for at your not-so-traditional marriage!
Also, check out different items for the wedding:
1. The Knot Wedding Shop’s unique place card holders are the perfect finishing touch to your wedding reception tables.
2. Capture those special moments with unique disposable wedding cameras for your guests, now on sale at The Knot Wedding Shop!
3. The Knot Wedding Shop has to-be-wed wear that’s cute for brides, cool for grooms, and perfect for moms and dads!