Marriage should enrich you, not eclipse you: Scarlett's brief marriage to Ryan Reynolds
Scarlett Johansson is arguably one of the most gorgeous women in Hollywood at present. She has a unique sense of sex appeal, and sensuality, combined with a very attractive personality, and the result is a woman whom countless people have fallen in love with. It was therefore, only expected of Ryan Reynolds to fall in love with Johansson as well.
The two of them met in 2007, and they started dating a while after that. Both were mutually interested in one another, and soon, they got engaged. Scarlett Johansson’s engagement was lapped up by the media. The paparazzi went into a tizzy, trying to figure out when she would walk down the aisle. The couple was constantly followed around, as speculations about the two of them grew by the day. After they announced their engagement in May 2008, the couple tied the knot in September, the same year. They were a beautiful couple, and every move of their married life was followed with anticipation by fans and followers.
After their marriage in British Columbia, the couple decided to buy a house together, and they got one in Los Angeles. However, all was not well in Scarlett’s paradise, and Ryan Reynolds filed for divorce in 2010. The cited cause was “irreconcilable differences.” One wonders what must have happened, since both Johansson and Reynolds were very tight-lipped about the exact cause. However, Johansson did talk about the process of moving on, later, in an interview. Some of her statements during the interview for Marie Claire, suggested that Reynolds might have been possessive and insecure.
While at the end of the day, everything is indeed idle speculation, it is important to note that marriages should not be co-dependent after a certain point. While it is okay to want certain things from one’s partner, a marriage is meant to help two people grow in a relationship. If the marriage ends up overpowering every other aspect of one’s life, it can only lead to disintegration of the relationship. In a marriage, both the husband and the wife should maintain their own identity, and should learn how to live together, while keeping in mind their other priorities which are not a part of their relationship.
Scarlett Johansson is an admirable woman because she did just that. Her statements hinted that Reynolds might have been overcome by jealousy at some point, but she walked out of the relationship with her head held high, precisely because she did not want the marriage to eclipse her whole life. While she admits that it took her time to get around the separation, she also stated that she has learnt a lot through the marriage.
Any relationship which threatens to take over all others cannot be a healthy one. An unhealthy amount of codependence ends up causing irrational fights, unfounded doubts, and misunderstandings. While it might be a romantic notion to be cocooned within a marriage, it is certainly not a healthy one. Marriages are sacred, and should be held on to, but sometimes, it is better to let go of a mistake than to harbor it till it poisons every aspect of your life.