There is a tall handsome man, not dark, but just fair enough for his masculine features to be evident with a chiseled jaw, and deep brown eyes, dark hair and broad forehead, in front of you. He is smelling of musk and wood in winter evening and is on one knee in front of you, smiling, with a ring held between his fingers. He looks admiringly at you and you can feel in fast breath and his pounding heart asking you to be his forever. In your heart of hearts you always knew this dream of yours would come true. All you want do now is say ‘Yes’ and live that bliss forever with that special someone.
Or you are that one guy who has been searching for that soul mate ever since you knew what love could mean, and you finally think you found it in your best friend? She’s been with you since as long as you remember, and she’s that perfect girl who can be your passionate partner, your adorable buddy and your wife all at once. She’s your strength and weakness, but you still can’t seem to realize how did that feeling of friendship changed to love! But one thing you know for sure is that you want her to be yours forever, and what’s making you smile now is that you can sense the same feelings in the way she looks at you!
Finding a long lost love, getting married to the one you always saw in your dreams, being told ‘I love you’ from that one single most special person in your life, getting surprised when you least expected. What are these?
Think about this - hearing back from that company you’ve been sending your resumes to for last 4 years, getting a promotion just when you were planning to make a big investment, getting posted in your dream location, or knowing that you’re going to have a baby just when you thought life had slowed down.
These are all the perfect moments we can ever imagine. Love, career, family, money. Most of our dreams revolve around these. And we call it perfect when any of those come true. But life is never perfect because it’s life, not a collection of dreams.
If all of what we want comes true, what fun would it be to dream anymore? To try anymore? To wait for a surprise? To wait or that special weekend? To plan those trips? The real fun is in the chase, and we all know it! That courtship period is a million times sweeter than that final day when you exchange the rings! Why? Because nothing can be compared to that anticipation, that heart which seems to be pounding inside your chest, those eyes which keep sending prayers heavenwards every second moment, and finally that joy when it all comes true. But even when it doesn’t, don’t keep regret, cos you did all that you could to make your dream come to life. That’s what life is about – to die without regrets.
Even when nothing is perfect, you can try making it. And good thing is, perfect keeps moving its flag post! So it can actually get better every time. Have a bad relationship? So what if it’s not the perfect thing to have.
No one wants a messed up relationship. Try putting in more efforts, try looking at that side of his/her which was never shared till now. It’s a simple fact – when you want things to get better, stop doing what’s not working.
God is just playing chess with us. His move is not a challenge, it’s an opportunity, and our move is Life. Dreams come true, when he just places his pawn at the exact square when we wanted him to! But even when he doesn’t, big deal! Game’s not over just there anyway, right? One good thing again, God never checkmates us, till we finally give up.
Live life to the fullest,
Dream big, Try harder,
Love more, Forgive easily and
Smile like it all is just the way you wanted.
'Cos another good thing about perfect is – the yardstick is ever changing!
Guest post by Ashima; visit her blog at www.TasteandFlavours.com