Finding our Best Friends in Siblings
Siblings are the very first best God-gifted best friends in our life. Yes, at times they do seem more like a nuisance, our rival in the affections of parents, someone that can drive us to the edge of our patience, but at the end of the day, they are there for us through thick and thin. Our first playmate, confidante, saviour and partner in mischief, siblings never let us down in the journey of life.
The camaraderie that prevails is perhaps the most invaluable treasure of one’s childhood years. They are the ultimate source of trust, friendship and entertainment, one we can fall back on, no matter what goes wrong. On occasions when we feel deserted by our parents, friends or whosoever else, the only person we can turn to, are our siblings. From sharing innocent secrets, looking up for strength, watching over you, being your friend, philosopher and guide ~ siblings are the all-in-one-packages for a lifetime! They will ne nagging, over-protective, jealous and mean, but the love and care that lies beneath surpasses the superficial squabbles.
The midnight birthday parties, the wonderful compatibility quotient, knowing each other inside out with all one’s follies and foibles, they all remind us what siblings mean to us and our lives. Yes, they do face anger, hurt and rejection according to the adage that says, ‘familiarity breeds contempt.” Siblings are the ones that we are most familiar with, and that might spur negative feelings on occasions, but nevertheless, they are always emotionally available to us in times of our vulnerability. During younger years, usually they often come very close to each other, having someone to fall back on when they feel let down by their parents or anybody else for that matter. However, with the passage of time, the intimacy might slip away as other people gain entry into our lives, such as new friends, partners, children etc. or in an opposite situation, they might discover that they are growing all the more dependent on each other. This line between friendship and siblings relationships is dynamic and often gets blurred as new events unfold.
The closeness often waxes and wanes in different stages of lifetime. When siblings are best friends, the bond can provide a lifelong source of love and support, a kind of nurturance and warmth that is comparable to a great marriage of romantic relationship. Given the natural bonds that tie us together, we must always find time to analyse and cherish the relationship. The best of both worlds can coincide peacefully if we share an equation that is both justified of siblings as well as best friends. As we grow, the love and fondness for our siblings with whom we share our lives also keeps fostering within us.