It takes a twin to tango!
Regardless of gender or age, it is a taken-for-granted fact that twin siblings share a different level of closeness and intimacy altogether. It has been heard of since ages by parents of twin children as well as from medical practitioners and researchers. Of course, it goes without saying that siblings are by themselves, one of the most beautiful gifts that we are blessed with. And when the pair of siblings are twins, they almost seem to be like a single soul dwelling in two bodies – such is the emotional connect between them, even if we keep the physical resemblance factor aside, for a moment.
It begins right from infancy. Baby twins often show similar eating, sleeping and behavioural patterns. While they have frequently been observed entertaining each other while placed together, they were seen to get easily upset when separated. Be it finishing each other’s sentences, knowing what a certain glance implies, or getting to read to other one’s mind even before he/she expresses her feelings, are just a few instances that occur frequently among twins.
Cryptophasia is a term used to describe the phenomenon wherein twins develop a unique language of their own, with words and phrases that are mostly understandable only to themselves. It has also been hypothesized that twins share an unspoken bond not only during their waking hours, but also while they are asleep, which explains why they often have the same dreams at night, with similar basic thoughts and ideas and are also often set in the same place with similar elements. Research has proved that identical twins exhibit almost identical brain wave patterns.
Even though as they grow up, certain differences do begin to emerge, but the amazing bond that binds them together remains undiluted. Because of the special equation that they share, parents might have a hard time deciding whether to keep them in different classrooms when they begin school. Many schools recommend that they be kept separately so as to encourage autonomy and not make them over-dependent on each other, parents argue that the cases should be dealt with individually and not in a generalised manner. Interestingly, studies have revealed that even twins who are reared apart show an enormous similarity in their voices, gestures, phobias and feelings, and a host of other cognitive and behavioural characteristics.
As they tread every path of their life with the same steps, they often get accustomed to referring to themselves as a collective “we” rather than an individual "me“ or “I”. It is beautiful for either of the twins to know that they have someone in this big bad world who is a lot like them, who understands them just the way they would want to be understood, and who has also pretty much gone through the same journey in life. And no matter what, they can always count on each other. For everything.