Scarlett's adopted sister and why blood ties don't matter

Scarlett's adopted sister and why blood ties don't matter

They say ‘blood is thicker than water’ and that only blood ties hold true in the end. Well, we know that is not quite true, don’t we? A relationship by blood is most definitely precious, but as we are reminded again and again, not foolproof. Many people balk from adopting because they are worried that the relationship will suffer because the ‘blood-connect’ isn’t there. They should take a look around the world and see how adopted families are thriving.

Adopting doesn’t only mean that a couple are blessed with a child they are unable to have biologically for whatever reason. It also means that a child in some part of the world, who is left orphaned, without the guiding hands of parents to guide him, has been given shelter and a family. Adoption means that an only child is gifted a sibling. Adoption is symbolic of humanity stretching out its hands to draw into its kind and loving heart, a soul that was wandering, lost.

The bond between a parent and a child is unique – whether the child is biological or adopted and a difference should never be made. A famous actress once proudly announced that her adopted daughter was told that she was special and unique because she was adopted and if she ever had a biological child, she/he would be considered only ‘normal’. This can cause great conflict in the relationship between siblings. Adopted siblings share as close a bond as genetically related siblings do.

For inspiration, look at Scarlett Johansson, vibrantly beautiful Hollywood actress. She shares a close bond with her adopted sister Fenen, who she brought along to share the spotlight at the unveiling of her Star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame, a major milestone in the lives of anyone who wants to be someone in the film industry.

Scarlett’s mother, Melanie Sloan, adopted little Fenen from Ethiopia two years ago, when she was a mere 20 months old. In fact, Melanie missed being at the premiere of Iron Man 2, starring Scarlett because she had gone to the country to adopt Fenen. Scarlett’s ex husband, Ryan Reynolds also has an adopted brother and is keen on adopting, himself.

Closer to home, in India, there are many celebs who have adopted their children, most notably Sushmita Sen, who has two adopted daughters. Raveena Tandon adopted two girls and they have blossomed under her care and away from the spotlight. Subhash Ghai and Dibaker Banerjee are directors who have adopted children, as is famous Salim Khan, father of Salman Khan. Dance guru Sandeep Soparkar and model Jesse Randhawa have adopted a little boy.

The point we are trying to make here is that adopted or not, relationships are important. We will talk about the parent and child relationship later but what do you do when your sister or brother is adopted? Nothing that you wouldn’t do if he or she was related to you by blood, wouldn’t you agree? Remember never to pull that card – that she or he is adopted – when you will have the inevitable fights that siblings have. That can hurt, the implication that since there is no blood relation and therefore the other person and his/her feelings, are not as important. If you do ever make the mistake of telling your sibling she/he is adopted and therefore not a “real” brother or sister, apologise. It is crucial that you do, so your sibling will know how sorry you are. And needless to say, never repeat the mistake again.

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