What men DON’T want
Many women tend to think that men are largely uncomplicated creatures and they don’t need to go that extra mile to make their men happy. Give them great food, show them some love, give them attention and make them believe they are the best thing that happened to you – that’s all that takes right? Well, if you have your head in the clouds, this is what you will believe in. Men are a little less complicated than women, yes, however be warned that men are no simpletons. They are also pretty precise about what they want in a woman, the only difference is that they are not as vociferous about it as women are about what they look for in a man. Also, men tend to want to avoid confrontations with their women and therefore choose to take small steps backwards instead of loudly voicing their opinions and asking for change. This can take a toll in a relationship because the man simply removes himself from the scene – the couple may not be actually ‘broken up’ but they dont live a life of congenial bliss either thanks to the ever widening gap caused by miscommunication.
Women should be a little careful about taking their men for granted, that’s all. We asked around and did some research and found out a few things that men absolutely detest in women they are in a relationship with. Read on and keep these things in mind – they will help you avoid a relationship faux pas!
Don’t be the damsel in distress: These are emancipated times and men are extremely put off by being looked upon as a meal ticket. Men say that women demand equal rights as per convenience – for example, after marriage, they are expected to provide the money for everything, even if the woman is earning. That concept of ‘my money is my money, your money is my money’ is a very off-putting notion. They also get annoyed at women who demand chivalry in the form of paying for meals and other expenses on dates. They don’t mind paying, but when it is an imposition it becomes a problem. So women, sit up and take note, while it is definitely endearing when a man treats you like a princess and refuses to let you pay for anything and takes care of your expenses even, the minute you decide that you are entitled to his paycheque, you are laying out the red carpet for him to walk away from you.
Give them space: But you already knew this didn’t you? Also, this holds true for both men and woman –space for the other person to live his/her life, is important and crucial for the well being of a relationship. Women tend to be very clingy and that is what puts men off. They feel as though their honesty to the relationship is questioned and every time they express a desire for some time off to hang out with their friends, they are looking for an excuse to cheat because their masculinity demands attention from a variety of women. So women, don’ t do that. A strong and confident woman should not hold grudges against a man for wanting his own space and if you are in a committed relationship, trust the man enough to let him have his time out. It puts a great strain on the relationship if a woman keeps mistrusting the man and thinks he is being selfish and making up an excuse to go and cheat just because he wants some space. Don’t put your guy in a choke hold, give him that much credit that he will not do your relationship harm and don’t think that keeping an eye on him all the time is the solution to ensuring he won’t stray. If he has to stray he will and you will eventually find out about it and give him the boot. But he also might be comletely committed to you - in which case, your constant clinging will make him run off and you will lose a good guy in the bargain.
Turning from the beauty into the beast: Men say they have a big problem with the fact that women go all out in the initial days to make themselves up, look pretty, smell good etc. and then once they catch the man they take him for granted, not bothering to dress up like before or look pretty. It is true, women do tend to slack off after they are in a relationship. Skirts are replaced by sweatpants and going into the effort of applying lipstick, eyeliner and blush just for a coffee date might seem to be a chore so they do without it. If you are guilty of this sin then do rectify it. Men don’t like feeling hoodwinked – they think they get the beauty and when she slowly morphs into a beast with unmade eyebrows, unwashed hair and and aversion to make up, they are bound to look at the other pretty young things walking by, just to compare. And comparisons are never good!
Don’t upstage them: Sometimes women have this annoying habit of trying to outdo their male conterparts in a misguided attempt to look ambitious. However this can have the exact opposite effect – men do not like being upstaged, it hurts their male egos. They love an ambitious and confident woman but when that woman tries to prove, especially in the midst of company, that they are better than them, it has a detrimental effect on the relationship. Make your point by all means but don’t do it at the cost of ruining his image in front of his friends.
These are just a few pointers – all men are different and it takes a little while to find out what makes them tick. So make an effort and listen to your man and observe him, and don’t do any of the above when you are in a relationship. That will ensure a smooth sailing affair indeed!