How to get your man - ways to attract someone you have a crush on!

How to get your man - ways to attract someone you have a crush on!

You know, gone are the days when men would read the signs a lady gives him, and act on them. Those were the days of glances exchanged across the room, telephone numbers sought out and handwritten letters requesting permission for company. Now, men just don’t act on hints and they don't enjoy the chase, the pursuit of a woman! So what's a woman to do? Wait for all eternity for a man to ask her out?

Earlier, women asking a man out was unthinkable – no lady worth her salt should have to ask for the company of a man – it should always be the other way around! Now of course, things are radically different. In the sense, that women are definitely more forward in expressing what they want and indeed, who they want. You could say the tables have turned, in a certain way, because men, nowadays play hard-to-get and coy. But we really should not blame them. After all, this is an age of crossed wires – there is so much information on what should be done and what shouldn’t be, what is appropriate and what isn’t, that it is bound to confuse the poor, befuddled male species. So how do you go about ‘getting your man’ without being labelled as ‘too forward’? easy – give him signals he cannot miss. The trick is to make the guy think he has made the approach. And how do you do that? By following what we tell you! Do you have a crush on someone and would like to take it further? Well, read on!

Now you probably know this but the best way to a man’s heart – is through his – friends. Yes, that’s right, you should get pally with your crush’s friends – work your way into his circle, if you guys have mutual friends, then try and be friends with the ones he is closest to. If his friends approve of you, then it makes your becoming a couple, that much easier. If you don’t know him then start making enquiries – do it discreetly! It might be that you have seen someone at a party – so ask your host or hostess about that someone, and without being too much of a stalker – go ahead and take your party host into confidence. Ask someone to introduce you but be careful, you don’t want to come across sounding desperate. Also, taking your friend into confidence and asking him/her to start dropping your name around your crush is a good way to letting him know you exist - if he doesn't know of your existence, well then, the chase is pretty futile!

Finding common interests or common grounds to talk about is crucial and key. If you are in college, it is extremely simple because all you have to do is ask around to find out what your crush likes. You can either take an active interest in his hobbies even if you are not much of a fan of them, yourself. Of course, if you have common likes, then it makes approaching him easier! Ask your friends to help you “run” into your crush and then strike up a conversation – casually – based on mutual likes. That is a sure win!

Be yourself- when girls have a crush on a guy, they try and dress up according to what they think the guy would want to see in a girl. Tight clothes, oodles of makeup and uncomfortable heels do not attract men. Just be yourself, be clean and neat and bank on your personality to attract a man. If you try and put on a facade of a fashion model when you are not comfortable in that avatar, you will only look silly. A little bit of lip gloss and some fruity, fresh perfume will help your case, agreed, but you don’t have to bring out the lipstick palette and stiletto heels for a casual encounter. Of course, don’t go to the opposite extreme and expect him to be attracted to you if you are unwashed, wearing faded clothing and look worse for wear. Come on, there is most definitely a visual element involved in attraction!

Above all, don’t go overboard. Don’t try and be someone you are not, don’t laugh like a maniac because you have heard how all men like their jokes laughed at, and most definitely, don’t be plastic and insincere because that will have the opposite effect!

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