Love yourself, first
Life has its own colors but it also has it’s share of pain – the most terrible kind being the heart break brought about by the betrayal of your trust by someone you love.
To all those women who have felt alone at one point or other in their lives, the one line you must have learned or should learn is - "you are yourself your first and best friend". It is really hard to face reality when a relationships ends, it can never be a happy thing, it worsens further when a person is ditched or cheated.
At this moment, you come across the two choices:
- Either to forgive the person for what happened or
- Forget the person.
Both of these seem nice to read, but are almost impossible. Almost because yes, you can overwrite the bad memories with your "awesome" new ones, if there is still scope for some. No one person can take the place of another but a void created by one could be filled in with time and a new person.
In this era, relationships are so hasty that moving in and out of love is more like a green and red button on your cell phone. Even while sleeping you know the way to connect and disconnect. Love at first site diminishes with next sober look,but the damage is done and and with just one line- "it didn't work out" , it is written off, it’s all over.
Has science made such an improvement that they have created an ON and OFF switch for your heart or is it just the coldness and selfishness?
Whatever it may be, if you are with someone you really love, someone you cannot imagine your life without them. If you still have some doubts, ask yourself- "how much for you is too much?"
When a person is a victim to a crime or some betrayal, the first question that must pop up in his/her mind is- How much for you is too much? Well, the basic truth about life is the closest and the trusted people are the one who hurt you the most. It’s a question that for which you must have crystal-clear reply in your head. The worst thing is it applies to almost everything.
There comes the real test, your love for yourself. How much you love, respect and care for yourself? How far you would let the person go? How much hurt you can bear? What lies can you handle?
Sharing a small incident-
A girl met a guy, they liked each other. He was amazing to her. As every other girl she started dreaming.But then a few weeks down the line, she felt things were weird, there were no major problems, but the minutest things that she unknowingly noticed. She didn't know what to do.
She liked him, but every time she asked him about her doubts, he changed the topic. She asked people around him, checked his social networking profiles and stuff. For sure, she wasn't spying on him,it was just a way to clear her mind.One fine day she came to know that he has someone else in his life. She didn't say anything to him, shejust hated him for a while, but then she just didn't care.
She had better things to do, with her life, had new friends. She kept that formal-friendly attitude towards him.
Due to jealousy or the feeling of being left out, He proposed her...to be his girlfriend, and she said- "all this time i was hoping that you won't do this,by proposing me you have proved that you are a liar and a cheater,but now when you did, we cannot be friends anymore."
She doesn’t need to move-on, his chapter was already closed in her life.Today everyone NEEDS to be "POSITIVELY NEGATIVE", "not trusting someone is one thing, and giving them the benefit of doubt is other." Time to realize the difference.
Guest article by Jagriti Gulati, who writes at http://www.jagritigulati.com/