How to be a "cool mom" without breaking boundaries
Ads on television these days depict society’s idea of the ideal mother; she is well-dressed, even at 7am, and is in sync with every aspect of her child’s lives, from their love for eating breakfast under the table, to their dislike for every single vegetable. The mom in television ads is “cool”; she knows how to play the game and gets her kids whipped into shape with a few smart one-liners and the product she is trying to sell. The conclusion of all these ads, depict a happy, content, and “cool” mom, with an equally happy and content child. Real life however, is not quite picturesque as moms everywhere struggle to find that fine line between being a friend to their child and also keeping the respect that one would want to inspire as a parent. We hope to identify some myths, facts, and solutions which will help aspiring cool moms achieve their goals.
Firstly, it is time to get the record straight on what constitutes a “cool” mom. A cool mom is not the overdressed, drowning-in-jewelry, heavily made up woman who is common to television serials and films. There is no “look” or style trend which can be associated with a cool mom, some of the coolest moms are simply clad, while some are more stylishly attired; in conclusion however, external appearances do not matter.
A truly cool mom is defined by how she carries herself and tackles the many growing pains of her children. She is sensitive to the fact that they will not remain cute and cuddly forever, and is aware that their needs will increase by leaps and bounds as they grow older. She will not lose her temper or physically hurt her child if he or she makes a mess, but will firmly point out their errors to them and teach them how to take responsibility. For this to happen, the cool mom needs to be a woman who follows codes of conduct, and is respectful of the needs of others. Therefore, much of the base of becoming a cool mom is set in how she herself has been brought up.
Secondly, a cool mom is up to date with current youth affairs. She knows about Facebook and whatsapp, and is aware of the impact of social networking on her children. She might even have her own profile, but will not interfere in her kid’s personal lives. She will however, warn them about potential dangers, random strangers and bullying. She knows about the latest fashion but will not always bend over and buy everything for her kids. She might, on occasion, allow her kids, if old enough, to bend a few rules once in a while, but overall, her rules will not be broken.
A really cool mom, the kind who is loved not only by her kids but by her kid’s friends, is the one adult who listens without judgment and expressions of horror. She is always there to provide a shoulder to cry on, and will give advice and offer solutions if asked, but overall, she is a very good listener, and that is what kids need sometime; a trustworthy adult who will not have an emotional meltdown in times of crisis.
There are a number of other attributes possessed by the average cool mom, or rather, the average cool parent [gender no bar]. Most of these attributes lie in their attitudes and reactions to the constantly changing circumstances around them. Being cool means being able to laugh at your kids jokes, but also being able to draw the line when matters get out of hand. There is a fine balance between bending rules and breaking them, and the cool mom masters this balance with aplomb!